You are the leader of the team. They work for you.

They need to deliver results. Have a discussion, set tangible goals. If you see there are no results, perhaps you need different people.

Find one person, an expert in the field whom you really trust. This person doesn’t have to be working with your child directly. Once in a while, call this expert to run by her the latest issue you are working on with your child. It will support and reassure you and give a second opinion, invaluable at the moment of doubt.

Professionals who did an excellent job for your three-year old may not know what to do with her when she is already eight. Or fifteen. Find people who have experience working with your child’s age group. In particular, ABA is a wonderful methodology for young children. Older children and teens may need a different approach.

If the professionals suggest you correct your own behavior, try to listen to them. First, they probably mean well. Second, you are under stress yourself and may push your child too much without noticing it. Sometimes, we can protect the beautiful rose so tightly we make it wither.

If you report an issue, and they say “That’s typical for autistic kids”, don’t accept this as an excuse for not working on the issue. The question is what can be done to fix the issue.